The White Dress Obsession

I don’t get it. I really don’t get it. Maybe Hollywood is nuts but people in movies and TV shows often make references to the importance of weddings for little girls. “She’s probably been planning her wedding since she was five!”

I honestly don’t know of any woman who has done this since she was five, or even ten! I’m pretty certain that the only thing I was planning when I was five was how I could get to eat ice cream for dinner. Any reference to a wedding was messily filed under the “eww gross” category.

Growing up, I was actually quite resentful of the idea of marriage. I didn’t want to get married because I didn’t want to leave my parents, ever. Eventually, I outgrew that idea too.

Weddings are a massive industry. And Indian weddings are a “massive industry” times 10. Let’s see… an average Hindu wedding includes the following events:

  • Mehndi/Henna Party
  • Sangeet/Music and Dance Party
  • Haldi/Turmeric Application Party
  • Baraat/The Groom’s Procession
  • Milni/Let’s Exchange Gifts Party
  • Phere/The Wedding
  • Vidaai/Goodbye Bride

Keep in mind that this is a pretty condensed list but there ya have it! It’s quite long, isn’t it? Ain’t no 5-year-old planning a 7-event wedding! Although they might as well eh? That’s a lot of planning.

Anyway, my point is that weddings are not as important for little girls. Although I can’t speak for grown women who voluntarily spend thousands of dollars to make their special day, well, special.

A Thing About Guilt

Today I woke up at 11 am. Yes, 11 am. And you know what? I didn’t have any guilt whatsoever. Know why? Because I effing deserve it.

Lately, my life has been pretty crazy. Between work and school (I was taking a jewelry class at Working Silver) I’ve had barely any time to myself. Even when I was binge-watching shows on Netflix, I was always doing something else as well. I’m not kidding, it’s been insanity.

But amidst all that insanity is clarity and a sense of purpose. Of all the 76,000 things on my plate right now, I wouldn’t take any of it away because it’s all part of the bigger picture.

The good thing about having a crazy busy schedule is that I don’t have time to do things “just to be nice.”You see, like most people, I would often participate in “social events” to avoid coming off as rude or elusive. I no longer feel the need to do that. No, let me rephrase that. I can no longer afford to do that.

I love my so-busy-I-could-freak-out-at-any-moment life because everything (literally everything) I’m doing right now contributes to THE PLAN. And I love it knowing that. So yes, I woke up at 11 am on a stat-Friday and skipped a brunch. I’m on a mission and I don’t have time to feel guilty!


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